She's yelling at someone not visible to the rest of us. In addition to the distressed yelling, her skin gives her away as a likely resident of one of the tents, though who knows for sure. Her cheeks are that red-brown of too much time outdoors.
During the wait, I imagine over and over again how I would tell Dash I wouldn't live to see him graduate high school. I mean, there are breakthroughs on the horizon, but seven years ago I was told we were five years out from a breast cancer vaccine that has yet to materialize, so who knows for sure. I stumble across a Twitter account of a woman who's had metastatic breast cancer for ten years, and I do the math. I figure it would be best for me to die when Dash is still in elementary school or after he's firmly ensconced in high school. I've heard that twelve is a magical year for kids' brain development, so that would be a bad year to die.
During the wait I think about other parents who've failed to control the world for their children, to the point where they don't even get to give their children the gift of themselves. I think about border separations, especially. The long sprint from Honduran frying pan to American fire.
During the wait I am full of anger and empathy. I want to care about things like AK's battle with Verizon and who I'm supposed to be mad at on Twitter. I manage to put on a jacket in the morning, and it seems like an act of deep kindness to myself and also stupidly frivolous.
Between my last check-up and this one, we lost Elizabeth Wurtzel, who wrote biting, badass things about cancer, and Shannen Doherty announced her stage 4 status because she was suing an insurance company and the news it was going to come out anyway.
I make eye contact with a woman sitting at one of the picnic tables, who is also watching the screaming woman. I know our faces are mirrors of each other: knit eyebrows, useless sadness. Except, I like to think it is not totally useless? In the Great Connectedness, to love another person, even for a minute, is to see the face of God. (Thank you, Victor Hugo/Les Mis.)
One table further down the sidewalk, I watch two men watch the screaming woman. They are laughing like, "Oh Venice, you're still nutty." Or, being as generous as possible, they are laughing nervously. Maybe they were having some kind of initial professional meeting and are measuring how to react. But they give me a focal point for my hatred, which has been looking for a place to land.
And then, two hours later in the middle of a staff meeting, I get word. Dr. Kwan's email confirms I am cancer-free. Seven years and counting. The odds, my friend Kim reminded me during my semiannual panic, were in my favor. Like Hunger Games. And cancer is a game that is exactly as fair as Hunger Games. I'm rooting for myself, but I feel like I'm killing Shannen Doherty in the process.
Last time, when my liver numbers were suspiciously high, I figured out it was probably from eating so much junk food--embarrassing but true--and although binge eating has always been in my toolbox of troublesome coping mechanisms (along with obsessive ruminating and sending emails that should stay in my drafts box), I think there might be a reason it peaked in the summer of 2019.
Molly died in March of that year. I can't pretend we were closer than we were, but her death shook me hard. I think a small part of me was like "Oh, so this is how fair the world is? This is how fucked-up and arbitrary? There's no good reason I should be alive," and while 97 percent of me wanted to be a good mom and spouse and sister and daughter and writer and citizen, 3 percent of me wanted to hurl myself into the sun to see what would happen. Fucking with my body in the most basic-bitch way was a small act of self-sabotage (and/or an outlet for my considerable work stress, who knows for sure). It took a couple of visits with clean tumor markers and wonky liver levels for me to stop.
I've eaten reasonably and exercised a little these past five months. I'll try to do even better these next six. Living in the world and knowing that what you do doesn't and does matter is really fucking hard. It's hard to know you're 99.99 percent powerless over the world and 86 percent powerless over your life, but to put every ounce of energy and your whole living-for-now body into the .01 and 13 percent respectively. Here goes nothing. Here it continues.