If being an inept heterosexual made a man gay, then gay men would not compose a measly 3 percent of the population…. You're not fags…you’re socially maladapted straight boys.
Thank you, Dan, on behalf of a queer girl who has heard a few of her straight female friends say, “I’m so fed up with men. I wish I were a lesbian” or “If I don’t meet a guy soon, I’m going to start dating women.”
Ladies and gentlemen, consider the implications of what you’re saying. 1) That dating your own gender is what people do when they’re not attractive or charismatic enough to draw a member of the opposite sex (even if you pose it as an “I wish I were a lesbian” compliment, it’s still insulting). 2) That dating your own gender is easier.
Of course it’s easier when you’re actually straight. There’s a very low possibility that someone you’re not emotionally invested in will break your heart. Dating someone you don’t care about is always easier than dating someone who brings out the crazy in you. All you girls who are fed up with becoming giggling, I-hope-he-calls losers over some guy, guess what? I’ve become a giggling, I-hope-she-calls loser over many girls in my life. And I’ve been surprisingly good at playing cool and hard-to-get with boys.
I will concede that if dating the opposite sex isn’t working and you’re attracted to folks of your same gender (or have weirdly intense friendships or find yourself terrified-by-yet-fascinated-with gay culture), you can give the “maybe I’m gay” theory at least a little credence.
Otherwise, follow Dan’s advice, get a makeover and read the dating tips on Match.com. (Well, maybe not the latter. I’m not sure anyone of any sexual orientation should take dating cues from Dr. Phil.)